Visitors to Kirkmichael entering the nave often pause by the tablestone at the doorway, intrigued by the large entwined or “luckenbooth” hearts, and wonder what the story behind the stone might be.
David Gray was a mason and undertaker at Poyntzfield, and he had married Helen Reid in Knockbain in 1806. A boy, John, was born to the couple in 1807, but tragically father David died just a few years later. The grieving young widow had the stone erected right by the door of the Poyntzfield mausoleum with the inscription dedicated to his memory “by his affectionate Widow Helen Reid”. And she had two entwined or “luckenbooth” hearts carved on the stone. The luckenbooth is one of the most romantic Scottish symbols of love, from the 17th century, and often given as a token of betrothal, affection and friendship.
The hearts, photographed by Andrew Dowsett
The Saltire Society, Highland Branch, pause by the doorway to the nave to hear the sad story and are captured by Andrew Dowsett
The location right beside the door to the Gun Munro mausoleum suggests that the family were well-respected by the laird’s family. The headstone to their long-serving nurse, Elizabeth Macbean, stands at the corner. The tablestone to John Johnston, the Poyntzfield grieve, lies adjacent to that of David Gray. The Gun Munro family liked to be surrounded by their faithful retainers, even in death.
When David Gray married Helen Reid they were both living at Drynie, in the parish of Knockbain.
1806 … July 25 David Gray Mason and Helen Reid both in Drynie this Parish
Now, the Gun Munros of Poyntzfield were closely associated with the Grahams of Drynie, so it may well have been a personal commendation between the lairds that brought David Gray and Helen Reid from Drynie to Poyntzfield.
The Trust has carried out little remediation on this tablestone. One of the legs had shed a leaf of sandstone, and we fixed that back on with resin. The gravediggers had as usual disposed of surplus soil by heaping it up under the tablestone, and even around the tablestone and by the west wall of the nave, so we took it back down closer to the original level. But other than that, it is as it was first installed back in the early 1800s.
Curiously, when lowering the soil between this tablestone and the west wall of the nave we found the missing piece of marble flower bud from the Regnart monument inside the nave, and a key that we think must once have opened a lock on the gate or door to the nave. Spoil from inside the nave had been deposited just outside its doorway!
The untidy state of the tablestone after restoration of the building
Section of Regnart memorial found whilst lowering soil between tablestone and wall
Key found whilst lowering soil between tablestone and wall
The Trust’s improvements through lowering the soil and returfing. The adjacent, lower, tablestone is the memorial to John Johnston, the grieve at Poyntzfield
There is a record of only one child, John, born the year after their marriage:
David Gray Undertaker Poyntzfield and his spouse Helen Reid had a child born 15th and baptised 19th May 1807 named John
We have no clue as to the reason for the early demise of David Gray. The inscription simply reads:
Dedicated to the memory / of / DAVID GRAY Mason who died / at Poyntzfield on the 7th March / 1810 aged 29 years / by his affectionate Widow / HELEN REID
Note the record of David as an undertaker as well as a mason. It is likely that he organised the funerals of several of those buried in Kirkmichael and may even have carved their gravestones himself. I have been unable to discover the antecedents of David Gray and Helen Reid. From the inscription, David must have been born about 1781, and Helen would probably have been born within a few years of this year as well. There are a few potential candidates in the records, but without any corroboration I shan’t even mention them.
I have also been unable to discover what became of Helen after David’s untimely death. She does not appear on the Resolis poor’s roll when surviving records start in 1822. I have no record of her re-marrying. And I have not identified her from Census returns, when they started in 1841.
The good news is that David and Helen’s son John not only survived but did well for himself.
He was not easy to track down, and I did wonder at first if he had died as a child. However, by casting my net wider I found he had relocated to Cawdor, working as a mill-wright on the Earl of Cawdor’s estate. In 1836 he was at Brackla in Cawdor. In 1841 he was at Balnarait (Balnaroid) in that parish, and thereafter at Culcharry. All three locations are so close to each other, it may be that it was just the description in the returns that changed, not his actual home. The distillery at Brackla was operating long before this time (Royal Brackla) and is nowadays undergoing a renaissance. There were many mills in the area, so there would have been plenty of opportunities for a young mill-wright.
Balnaroid and Culcharry as surveyed in 1869 by the Ordnance Survey; Brackla is just to the north
In 1836 he married Joanna or Johanna McIntyre, daughter of farmer James McIntyre and wife Jane McIntyre. The widowed farmer can, in fact, be seen next door to the Grays in the 1841 census return. They married in the parish of Cawdor in 1836:
John Gray wright at Brackla & Johanna Macintyre at Culcharry were married the 25th March 1836. Witnesses Robert Fraser Brackla & Donald Macintyre Farmer at Culcharry.
The witness Donald Macintyre was Joanna’s brother, who farmed with his father at Culcharry. These are John Gray’s descriptions in each of the subsequent census returns and several baptism records:
1837 John Gray millwright at Brackla
1841 John Gray mill-wright 30
1844 and 1846 John Gray millwright at Brackla
1851 John Gray Head Married Millwright 44 Carpenter & Millwright born Rossolos Ross & Cromarty
1861 John Gray Head Married 53 Carpenter born Resolis, Ross & Cromarty
1871 John Gray Head Married Male 62 Carpenter (Master Employing 1 Man) born Resolis, Ross & Cromarty
1881 [his son Peter now head of family] John Gray Father Widower 70 Annuitant Resolis, Ross & Cromarty
You will note how he was getting relatively younger as he grew older! I have not established the character of John, as he seems to have led a quiet life. There is a note in the Nairnshire Telegraph of 5 November 1853 which if anything underlines how uncontrovesial his life was if this is the highlight!
Gigantic Potatoes … We have also beside us two potatoes of the early ash-leafed kidney variety, which have been handed to us by Mr John Gray, Culcharry. One of these weighs 24 and the other 29 ounces, the greatest circumference of the former being 18 inches, and its least 10, and the like measurements of the latter being 16 and 12 inches. These potatoes grew on a spot of ground which had never been cultivated until the present year. We shall at all times be happy to receive similar samples of this esculent, for (home consumpt, and) notice in our columns.
From this you will gather that John Gray was breaking in new ground at Culcharry where, according to the valuation rolls, he held a house and croft, the owner, of course, being the Earl of Cawdor.
John and Joanna were blessed with children David (1837), Jane (1839), Jane (1840), James (1842), Ephibia Maxwell (1844), Patrick McIntyre Smith (Peter) (1846) and Joanna (1850). The first Jane died in infancy and Phoebe (Ephibia Maxwell) died aged only five, according to the family gravestone in Cawdor kirkyard. Of the surviving children, David became an engineer in Glasgow. At the time of his marriage in 1866, to Jane Wayman, he was an “engineers pattern maker foreman” according to his marriage certificate but “manager, Maryhill Ironworks” according to the marriage announcement in the Nairnshire Telegraph! James became a joiner in Inverness for a time, but somehow by 1879, according to his marriage certificate, had become an Iron Foundry Manager in Coatbridge! He married Maggie Munro in Inverness in 1872, and then, a widower, married Jane Cowie in Old Monkland in 1879. There were children from both marriages. I see that by 1891 he had become “Inspector of Buildings”. The youngest boy, Peter, continued to live at Culcharry, where he became a master carpenter, marrying Margaret Forbes in 1879. I have not been successful in tracking the surviving daughters.
John Gray’s wife, Joanna, died in 1876:
Joanna Gray married to John Gray millwright died 15 Feb 1876 at Culcharry, Cawdor aged 69 parents James McIntyre farmer (d) Jane McIntyre ms McIntyre (d) informant John Gray widower (present)
And John Gray himself died in 1888:
John Gray Millwright, master widower of Joanna ms McIntyre (d) died 23 Oct 1888 Culcharry, Cawdor aged 80 parents David Gray mason (master) (d) Helen Gray ms Reid (d) informant P McI S Gray son
John Gray and Joanna are buried in Cawdor Kirkyard. I wonder if John ever returned to Kirkmichael to look at the tablestone erected by his mother to commemorate his father’s early passing?
The attractive kirk and kirkyard at Cawdor; photographed by Jim Mackay 7 March 2019
Despite knowing that John, the only son of our “hearts entwined” couple, David Gray and Helen Reid, had a memorial in Cawdor Churchyard, I did not succeed in locating it on my first visit. More recently, Trustee Davine Sutherland was in Cawdor Churchyard and sent me some pictures of one of its more unusual memorials, a great iron and marble edifice that stands out very clearly, even from a distance.
photo by Davine Sutherland
To my chagrin, when I had a look at the inscription contained on the marble panel inside the ironwork, I found this edifice to be the missing memorial! It reads:
JOHN GRAY / in memory of / his wife, JOHANNA McINTYRE, / who died 15th February 1876, / aged 70 years. / Their daughter, JANE, / who died in infancy. / Their daughter, PHŒBE, / who died January 1847, / aged 5 years. / The said / JOHN GRAY / died 23rd October 1888, aged 80 years. / Their son / PATRICK McINTYRE SMITH / beloved husband of MARGARET FORBES / died 13th January 1930 aged 83 years. / PATRICK, died in infancy. / ELSPETH, / died 8th May 1902, aged 13 years. / MARGARET FORBES, wife of the above / PATRICK McINTYRE SMITH, / who died at Viewhill Cawdor / on 9th April 1941, aged 85 years.
photo by Davine Sutherland
Iron memorials are not common. When we put this story up on our Facebook page, viewers came back to us with quite a number of graveyards where there was one, or perhaps two, examples, and Jonathan McColl even went out to St Clements in Dingwall to lift up a broken one there to see if the name of the works was on it. In late Victorian times, several ironworks produced competing styles of iron memorials. Given that son David had been an “engineers pattern maker foreman” and “manager, Maryhill Ironworks” and that son James had become an Iron Foundry Manager in Coatbridge, it was intriguing to see where the iron and marble memorial had been produced. I noted that there seemed to be some writing in the rust and paint crusted memorial near the base, so went over with a bright lamp and some shading material to read it. The tiny metal inscription eventually yielded up its message. It reads “God’s Will. Write: Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord”. Revelations, but not the revelation I was expecting!
photos by Davine Sutherland and Jim Mackay
It may be that the name of the foundry is inside the iron framework. Some iron memorials are cast as one piece, inscription and all, a highly personalised style. But in the Cawdor example, the marble panel on this style of memorial is simply inserted into the framework of the memorial through a portal in the back, the portal secured by several large screws. Those well rusted screws would take some shifting nowadays, although I am sure if there was a maintenance requirement to remove the back panel it could be done.
photo by Jim Mackay
One of the Glasgow companies that made many fine iron memorials was the Sun Foundry of George Smith & co. George Smith trained as a pattern maker (and I note that David Gray had been an engineers pattern maker foreman), with the work of the Sun Foundry amongst the best of the Scottish firms producing memorials. One of our viewers commented that the sunburst effect at the base of the Cawdor memorial might suggest the memorial had been cast by the Sun Foundry. That is actually a very sound suggestion, and the best guess that we have until more evidence comes along.
For your interest, I include images of three completely iron memorials found in or near Inverness, courtesy of Dave Conner of the Inverness Local History Forum. The wonderful example in the centre, from Dores, bears a detailed moulding of a Highland Railway 2-4-0 locomotive, perhaps cast in the Highland Railway’s Lochgorm Works in Inverness. If anything more emerges about the Cawdor memorial then this story will be updated. We have the entwined hearts or luckenbooth stone in Kirkmichael commemorating David Gray and Helen Reid, and this fantastic iron and marble memorial in Cawdor commemorating their only son John’s family.
photos by Dave Conner